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Start The Conversation

Conventional wisdom says that we all want to stay in our own homes for as long as we can. That is likely how most of our seniors feel; however it is not always in their best interest to do so. How do we talk with them about the realities and dangers of staying at home once their health is failing, and how do we convince them that a move to an active adult community could be very good – and positive – option.

Part of the challenge with convincing seniors is that most of them haven’t been inside an active adult community. Deep inside their gut, they are holding on to the outdated image of an “old folks home.” They consider a move from the family home one more step away from independence and in fact, it is quite the opposite. Our goal in assisted living is we want our residents to do as much as they can for as long as they can.

Many negative feelings and difficult situations can be alleviated by starting the conversation early and talking often about what’s coming down the road for aging loved ones. Starting the conversation can be difficult for sure, but approaching it a piece at a time and conducting a series of conversations over a span of weeks or months may help. Starting the conversation before a medical or emotional crisis transpires allows families to take time.

We know you may already be convinced, so how do you convince your loved one that it is time to move to assisted living?

Tips for Starting the Conversation About Assisted Living

Plant the seed.

Don’t approach your loved one as if you’ve already made the decision. Just mention that there are options that could make life easier – and much more enjoyable!

Focus on the Positives.

Highlight the positives of a potential move to senior living rather than focusing on any negatives. Don’t make the conversation about their limitations. “Mom, you shouldn’t drive. Dad, you can’t climb a ladder anymore.” That will only remind someone they were once vital and energetic but now seeing limitations. Those are very difficult things to come to grips with. Make the conversation about possibilities and supportiveness. Instead, present senior living as something that makes their life better. No more shoveling snow. Meals available when you don’t feel like cooking. The security of on-site health care if and when you need it. If they object, be understanding. Remember, no one likes to admit their limitations.

Ask if your loved one feels lonely.

One of the biggest upsides to moving to assisted living is the big increase in social stimulation. Things like community dining and activities can be a big help if a senior is feeling lonely.

Ask if your loved one wants help.

…with housekeeping, laundry, running errands or other daily chores. They might be struggling in silence and hoping you’ll offer or find them some help.

Watch for a “Teachable Moment”.

Did Mom fall, but escape getting hurt badly – this time? Use this as an opportunity to make a change before the next incident narrows her options down. You may want to wait a day or two and say something like, “Wow, that was a close call. Once you’re feeling better maybe we can stop by an assisted living center that we pass all the time.”

Don’t push it unless you consider it an emergency.

It’s so hard to wait when you know it is what your loved one needs and would want if they knew more about it. If your loved one shares that they are lonely during conversation, this is another great time to tell them about how much life can be better in assisted living.

Stress the safety aspects of being in a supportive environment.

Let them know there is always someone there to help them and that they will never feel alone.

Be sensitive to your loved ones feelings.

Leaving a home where he or she has lived with a partner, raised their kids and once had friends amongst their neighbors is emotionally difficult, so be empathetic. The truth is they will carry their memories in their heart wherever they go but, the house has become too much to manage.

Come See Us.

When the time is right, maybe even spur of the moment, come in and visit The Arbors. Join us for lunch, an art class, book club, veteran chats, or maybe a day of beauty! Once you are here, we lift the burden of convincing your loved one from you and it now becomes our heartfelt gift to show them life can be living at The Arbors!


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George Starkesen

“The best part of The Arbors are the people, the programs and the independence. I take daily walks around the neighborhood”

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Doris Crotty

“I like the programs offered, they keep me busy and engaged. I love living here”

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Dolores McCrone

“I’ve made The Arbors my home and I am very content”

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Josephine Foschino

“I love making new friends and enjoying life”

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Gladys Bischoff

“I love my beautiful room and all my friends”

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Diane

“The life of a caregiver is truly very difficult, and with no training, I’m just a daughter, I made it work, but it got to be too much. It was a very difficult decision to have my mom move here. The folks here made my transition very easy, very helpful, very friendly, the staff is great. It was just a real comfort to me when I left. I felt that my mom was in really good hands.  I have such peace of mind knowing that my mom is being well taken care of at The Arbors.”

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Tom

“You can go home and sleep at night knowing your loved one is being taken care of. I am grateful to call The Arbors home for my father-in-law.”

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Joan

“Living at The Arbors has changed my life completely. I am in a new world.  When I started to fall last year, and had to be rushed to the hospital, I was scared. I didn’t want to leave my home. But I’ve made a lot of friends here. It’s a big family. Arbors makes it very comfortable for me. The staff are great, they would take you to the moon if they could. I say my prayers every night and thank God for finding this place for me.”

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Elaine

“I love my apartment at The Arbors. It’s just enough space for me to relax. I spend my days socializing with my new friends in the shared spaces, so my home actually got bigger, not smaller.”

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Helen

“Make new friends, but keep the old. Some are silver and some are gold…Over eight years, I’ve made a lot of friends, new ones, old ones, and I’ve enjoyed all of them immensely. I guess coming into a place like this, you wonder who’s going to be a friend, but then you find so many friends, whether they’re residents or staff. My favorite part about The Arbors is the people that I’ve met, they take good care of me.”

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