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Start the Conversation About Assisted Living

Elderly Woman and Elderly Man Walking

Conventional wisdom says that we all want to stay in our own homes for as long as we can. That is likely how most of our seniors feel; however it is not always in their best interest to do so. How do we talk with them about the realities and dangers of staying at home once their health is failing, and how do we convince them that a move to an active adult community could be very good – and positive – option.

Part of the challenge with convincing seniors is that most of them haven’t been inside an active adult community. Deep inside their gut, they are holding on to the outdated image of an “old folks home.” They consider a move from the family home one more step away from independence and in fact, it is quite the opposite. Our goal in assisted living is we want our residents to do as much as they can for as long as they can.

We know you may already be convinced, so how do you convince your loved one that it is time to move to assisted living?

6 Tips for Starting the Conversation About Assisted Living


1) Plant the seed.

Don’t approach your loved one as if you’ve already made the decision. Just mention that there are options that could make life easier – and much more enjoyable!

2) Watch for a “Teachable Moment”.

Did Mom fall, but escape getting hurt badly – this time? Use this as an opportunity to make a change before the next incident narrows her options down. You may want to wait a day or two and say something like, “Wow, that was a close call. Once you’re feeling better maybe we can stop by an assisted living center that we pass all the time.”

3) Don’t push it unless you consider it an emergency.

It’s so hard to wait when you know it is what your loved one needs and would want if they knew more about it. If your loved one shares that they are lonely during conversation, this is another great time to tell them about how much life can be better in assisted living.

4) Stress the safety aspects of being in a supportive environment.

Let them know there is always someone there to help them and that they will never feel alone.

5) Be sensitive to your loved ones feelings.

Leaving a home where he or she has lived with a partner, raised their kids and once had friends amongst their neighbors is emotionally difficult. The truth is they will carry their memories in their heart wherever they go but, the house has become too much to manage.

6) Come See Us.

When the time is right, maybe even spur of the moment, come in and visit The Arbors. Join us for lunch, an art class, book club, veteran chats, or maybe a day of beauty! Once you are here, we lift the burden of convincing your loved one from you and it now becomes our heartfelt gift to show them life can be living at The Arbors!