Standing still and NOT making a decision IS actually making a choice… it just may not be the right one for you.

Choosing not to move a parent to assisted living out of guilt is, in itself, a decision with significant consequences. The emotional burden of guilt may lead one to postpone a necessary transition, potentially compromising the well-being of the aging parent. While the intention might be rooted in love and a desire to maintain a familiar environment, it’s essential to recognize that avoiding a decision is, in fact, making a choice. Procrastinating on such a crucial matter can impact both the parent’s quality of life and the caregiver’s ability to provide adequate support. It’s crucial to confront these feelings of guilt, weigh the options carefully, and make decisions that prioritize the long-term health and happiness of the elderly individual.

It may seem like the EASIER decision for you, but is it best for your parent? Here are some pros on cons of each.

PASSIVE DECISION 

(Staying at home)

PROS: 

• Avoid confrontation

• Able to stay in their house

 

CONS:

• Unsafe

• Lonely

• Not eating properly

• Unmanaged Medications (Potentially dangerous)

• Overwhelming caregiver responsibilities

• Strained relationship due to burden on caregiver

• Lack of independence

 

ACTIVE DECISION

(Moving to Assisted Living)

PROS:

• Safety

• Closer to family

• 24/7 Oversight

• Three nutritious hot meals

• Medication Management

• Socialization

• Independence

• Sense of purpose again

• Exposure to new activities and new friends

 

CONS:

• Initial discomfort

• Not remaining in house

 

If you would like more information about The Arbors and how we can help you make the right decision for your family, contact one of our experts.